How Your Therapist Can Help You When You or Your Relationship is Escalated
It’s 3:00 o’clock, two hours before a couple is scheduled for therapy. I get an email describing that they can’t make it to their couples therapy appointment because they are fighting. What they don’t...
View ArticleHow to Make Time for More Fun!
In the hustle and bustle of daily life and society’s focus on productivity, are you taking enough time to play? When you do have time for fun and relaxation, are you present in the moment or are your...
View ArticleWe Do Not Need To Be Worthy or Deserving of Love
Client: ‘I feel like I am not deserving or worthy of love’Therapist: ‘And how do you determine that you are worthy or deserving of love? What’s the criteria?’Client: *shrugs* ‘I don’t know’Throughout...
View ArticleA Compassionate Lens on Holiday Pain
Ok BUT HOW CRAZY IS THE END OF THE YEAR?!Honestly, I applaud us all for making it this far into 2020 somehow. As the holidays are upon us, it can be inherently anxiety provoking for those of us with...
View ArticleA Cheat Sheet of Emotional Intelligence
Folks with high emotional intelligence (EQ) are more able to face grief and other traumatic events without experiencing lasting impacts such as PTSD or a phobia. If that’s not reason enough to want to...
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A Guide to Navigating In-Laws
This is the perfect time of year to talk about in-laws!In-laws is definitely a topic we either love to discuss or love to avoid. Relationships can be hard, and when you become a part of a whole new...
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Developing Emotional Agility
It’s normal for us to want to be happy. None of us enjoy feeling stuck in negative emotions. However, often the way we’ve been taught to deal with our difficult emotions increases our unhappiness....
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To my beloved queer/trans/enby/questioning folks: This is a Love Letter
This is a love letterTo meTo you To usFor too long, many of us have subsisted on scraps of relationshipsWe know the silent (and sometimes not so silent) contempt of loved ones and even strangers...
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The Illusion of your Limitations
"A Woman's Place is in the Kitchen" is a phrase that I would describe as one of the most disgusting things ever said. These words are manipulative, they are controlling, they are belittling, and they...
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You Can Get Unstuck
Happy March!Either in my own life or with any of my clients that I've seen recently, I've noticed a common theme of "I'm stuck! My life isn't moving!". I remember writing in a journal while I lived in...
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Positivity Isn't All That Positive
“Cheer up”“Look on the bright side”“See the silver lining”I’m just as guilty as the next in falling for these so-called “positive reframes.” Here’s the thing though, these efforts to create a positive...
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You Can't Please Everyone
It’s true: You can’t please everyone all the time and trying to not only betrays yourself and your needs, but often creates more problems than it solves. Sometimes we think that it’s better if we...
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You Deserve More
This is a heavy, heavy, topic. Before you read on, please make sure you're in a good headspace, well fed, and well hydrated. Part of what makes abuse so tough to get out of is because the abuser is...
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4 Common Myths About Empathy
Empathy is an important skill in life and in romantic relationships. The developed skill of empathy unlocks your potential to validate, understand, and accept others. When I’ve seen empathy genuinely...
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10 Actions of Effective Allies
This topic is going to cause some discomfort. Discomfort is okay. This is urgent. “Daring Leaders are never silent about hard things” - Brene BrownI have erased and written this post a million times,...
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Demystifying Self-Compassion
The what and how of turning toward ourselves with kindness and supportWhen we are committed to working on our own healing, one of the most powerful—and challenging—things we can do is show ourselves...
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Matresence: Mom Puberty
Matrescence: Mom PubertyWhat is matrescence? And why haven’t we heard of it? Originally coined by anthropologist Dana Raphael in the 70’s, and recently revived by psychologist Dr. Aurelie Athan, the...
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Letter to Abraham from Isaac's Therapist
Dear Abraham,My name is Allison and I'm a therapist, who has been working with your son, Isaac for the last 5 months following his suicide attempt and hospitalization.I'm happy to report that Isaac is...
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You Can't Logic Out of Trauma
Unpopular truth: trauma therapy needs more than talkingIt’s actually even more dramatic than that. Talk therapy can work with trauma symptoms, but it won’t resolve the underlying traumatic memory.To...
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Open Letter to my LDS Neighbors
Mindful Counseling is located in the heart of “Happy Valley” Utah and it is no secret that the LDSChurch has a large influence in the state. Tiffany Roe and the Mindful Counseling therapists/team...
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